Rethinking Shame As A Motivator For Change.

When individuals begin to see me for therapy, it is very often because they have gotten fed up with some part of themselves that they feel needs changing, fixing, or altogether eradicating. They’ll introduce this part of themselves to me as their “stupid anxiety” or “annoying depression” or “ridiculous obsession with eating,” etcetera. They judge … Continue reading Rethinking Shame As A Motivator For Change.

Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.

Do we really need to be better than we are? We are frequently plagued with expectations for ourselves to do better and to be better. Approaching ourselves through this lens, it is very difficult to come from a place of self-compassion, because we are viewing all of our imperfections and making plans for the "fixing" … Continue reading Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.