Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.

Do we really need to be better than we are? We are frequently plagued with expectations for ourselves to do better and to be better. Approaching ourselves through this lens, it is very difficult to come from a place of self-compassion, because we are viewing all of our imperfections and making plans for the "fixing" … Continue reading Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.

3 Signs that we may need support to work with issues with control.

Trigger warning: this blog post describes disordered eating patterns and behaviors.  Last week, I wrote about how control isn't always the bad guy, and how sometimes allowing for a little control here or there can help us in our self-work towards larger goals. This week, we're looking at signs that our internal "controller" has taken … Continue reading 3 Signs that we may need support to work with issues with control.

Sing anyway!

My father is the greatest singer in the world. You likely do not believe this, but that is only because you have never heard him sing. I swear to you that it's the truth. When I was growing up, my dad worked for the Atlantic City casinos, in marketing. I don't know why exactly he chose … Continue reading Sing anyway!

Little Thought of the Day: Slow and gentle change is the reward of self-work.

  Self-work is a process. It does not produce results overnight (or, much to the chagrin of our insurance companies, after eight prescribed therapy sessions). It is not achieved by rote behavioral changes (though these are Useful survival techniques) or by shaming ourselves into being different. It works gradually, through regular self-reflection and checking in … Continue reading Little Thought of the Day: Slow and gentle change is the reward of self-work.