In the therapy world, our ears become attuned to our own distinct language, one that we sometimes forget is our own. We throw around terminology like “transgenerational trauma” and “stress mechanisms” and forget that the rest of the world doesn’t routinely speak that way. We insulate ourselves with these terms, and tend to understand one … Continue reading Three Reasons We Shame One Another, And Why We Should Stop.
Category: Self-Work
Connection is essential, and difficult to come by.
There is a unique grief to the end of my thirties. In many ways, this decade has been liberating and exciting. Like many people of my generation, I’ve finally hit a stride in my career that includes feeling both competent and skilled and fairly compensated for my work. I live in a home with … Continue reading Connection is essential, and difficult to come by.
Gardening is like self-work (and I’m not the best at it)…
I kill all things green. This is my truth around gardening and, though I’m deeply unhappy about it, it’s factual. If you give me a plant I will kill it. Consider yourself warned- please don’t gift me plantlife. That said, my mother-in-law is here this weekend, replete with her very green thumb, and she’s graciously … Continue reading Gardening is like self-work (and I’m not the best at it)…
How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.
One of my friends tells her story of growing up with a mother with “issues” rather matter-of-factly, but the details are pretty grim to listen to. “She would stop talking to me for no reason, for days at a time, and put a gift on my bed when she decided she was done being mad … Continue reading How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.
Itch, Itch, Itch
The thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains. – Paul Simon My blood is alive with many voices telling me that I am made of longing. – Rainer Maria Rilke Last night my husband and I went out for Indian food at our local favorite place. I … Continue reading Itch, Itch, Itch
