How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.

One of my friends tells her story of growing up with a mother with “issues” rather matter-of-factly, but the details are pretty grim to listen to. “She would stop talking to me for no reason, for days at a time, and put a gift on my bed when she decided she was done being mad … Continue reading How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.

Itch, Itch, Itch

The thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains. – Paul Simon My blood is alive with many voices telling me that I am made of longing. – Rainer Maria Rilke Last night my husband and I went out for Indian food at our local favorite place. I … Continue reading Itch, Itch, Itch

How Much Do We Deserve?

Within my work as a therapist, I’ve had the privilege of meeting countless incredibly selfless and generous individuals - Givers, all of them. Perhaps it’s because I specialize in treating Anxiety, which tends to align closely Shame and Guilt. Those guys don’t make it easy to invest in one’s self-interest very well (or really, at … Continue reading How Much Do We Deserve?

Examining the stories we tell about ourselves: Why creating our own narrative is so important.

In our adults years, we often believe we have a clear (somewhat clear?) understanding of who we are. This understanding is informed by the stories that have been told to us, about us, by other people throughout our lives: our parents, teachers, friends, extended family, coaches, etc. We play specific roles in the various systems … Continue reading Examining the stories we tell about ourselves: Why creating our own narrative is so important.

Books to be better: Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.

Codependency refers to a relationship in which one party has excessive emotional or psychological reliance on the other. Cited often in terms of addiction (a codependent relationship between an addict and their enabling partner, parent, friend, etc.), codependency also pops up frequently in relationships in which someone is struggling with mental or physical illness. More broadly, … Continue reading Books to be better: Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.