Survival Mode: 4 Things to do When Times Get Rough

Life is good. There is lots of room for travel, for friends, for Vitamin D and sunshine, for self-exploration and contemplation and laughter and dessert. This is Growth Mode – a period of expansion and stretching out into myself, and I’m grateful for it because I know times don’t always feel like this. There are … Continue reading Survival Mode: 4 Things to do When Times Get Rough

The Scary & Beautiful Gift of Change

In a conversation on the phone today, my best friend said something brilliant and noteworthy. (He is given to doing this on a whim). He said, “A great many people have compromised their souls in the name of safety and security.” (Told you it was smart. And yes, he actually talks this way, which is … Continue reading The Scary & Beautiful Gift of Change

How Much Do We Deserve?

Within my work as a therapist, I’ve had the privilege of meeting countless incredibly selfless and generous individuals - Givers, all of them. Perhaps it’s because I specialize in treating Anxiety, which tends to align closely Shame and Guilt. Those guys don’t make it easy to invest in one’s self-interest very well (or really, at … Continue reading How Much Do We Deserve?

How to Get Big & Take Up Space, Emotionally Speaking.

Winter is not a stretchy season. It's cold all of the time, and we're indoors alot, and things can start to feel a little cramped. With all this time to huddle up, it's a very good season for some intentional emotional work and self-reflection. How about considering how to take a leap and put yourself … Continue reading How to Get Big & Take Up Space, Emotionally Speaking.

Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.

Do we really need to be better than we are? We are frequently plagued with expectations for ourselves to do better and to be better. Approaching ourselves through this lens, it is very difficult to come from a place of self-compassion, because we are viewing all of our imperfections and making plans for the "fixing" … Continue reading Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.