Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.

Do we really need to be better than we are? We are frequently plagued with expectations for ourselves to do better and to be better. Approaching ourselves through this lens, it is very difficult to come from a place of self-compassion, because we are viewing all of our imperfections and making plans for the "fixing" … Continue reading Make moves to be whole, not to be “better”.

We are already enough.

"Once everyone understands their value, we stop hustling for worthiness and lean into our gifts." - Brene Brown, Dare to Lead American culture emphasizes an "as soon as" mentality. As soon as we lose the last ten pounds, or get the promotion, as soon as we acquire the better house, or the nicer wardrobe, as … Continue reading We are already enough.

Books to be better: Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.

Codependency refers to a relationship in which one party has excessive¬†emotional or psychological reliance on the other. Cited often in terms of addiction (a codependent relationship between an addict and their enabling partner, parent, friend, etc.), codependency also pops up frequently in relationships in which someone is struggling with mental or physical illness. More broadly, … Continue reading Books to be better: Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.

Is the need for control always a bad thing? (Hint: no. It’s not.)

  "Why? Why do I care? Why do I need to make my bed upon rising? More importantly, how can I just roll with it?" I was texting with my friend on the subject of control. Like most regular adult humans, she's had a lifelong love/hate affair with control - wanting more of it in … Continue reading Is the need for control always a bad thing? (Hint: no. It’s not.)

Sing anyway!

My father is the greatest singer in the world.¬†You likely do not believe this, but that is only because you have never heard him sing. I swear to you that it's the truth. When I was growing up, my dad worked for the Atlantic City casinos, in marketing. I don't know why exactly he chose … Continue reading Sing anyway!