In the therapy world, our ears become attuned to our own distinct language, one that we sometimes forget is our own. We throw around terminology like “transgenerational trauma” and “stress mechanisms” and forget that the rest of the world doesn’t routinely speak that way. We insulate ourselves with these terms, and tend to understand one … Continue reading Three Reasons We Shame One Another, And Why We Should Stop.
The recent news about wealthy/celebrity parents paying to have their children accepted into colleges via fraudulent methods has gotten me thinking. My first thought is, "Wait, isn't this old news? I thought we all knew this was going on." My secondthought is the stuff of this post: a thread around the larger concept of parents' … Continue reading When Help Is Harmful: Thoughts on “Snowplow” Parenting
Parents frequently ask me for support in figuring out how best to set rules and expectations for their teenagers. This can be tough to navigate, especially if the teenager pushes back (which they are wont to do) or the parents aren't sure how they "should" approach boundary setting (there are no "shoulds"; there is no … Continue reading If it Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It: 3 Tips for Setting Rules for Teenagers
Free-Photos/PixabayDo you have trouble holding your boundaries? Do you find it even more difficult after a conversation with your significant other, your mother, your best friend? You might be in a relationship with a boundary-pusher. Here are six types of common boundary-pushers I’ve identified in my years as a therapist (and as a human). It’s … Continue reading 6 Common Types of Boundary-Pushers: Do You Have One In Your Life?
In my fifteen years as a clinician, I’ve worked predominantly with adolescents and young adults. I’ve always appreciated teenagers - there is such magic in that developmental period of trying on many different hats and identity exploration. On countless occasions, I’ve had teenagers brought to my office by their parents, seeking support because their child … Continue reading To the Parents of Kids that Don’t Fit In: Your Kids are All Right.