The thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains. – Paul Simon My blood is alive with many voices telling me that I am made of longing. – Rainer Maria Rilke Last night my husband and I went out for Indian food at our local favorite place. I … Continue reading Itch, Itch, Itch
I don’t really like the word “motivate” at all. To me, it seems like a dressed-up “should,” which is on my least-favorite-words list, and carries with it a sense of dread and obligation: I need to motivate myself to go jogging. You need to motivate yourself to do your homework. Let’s get motivated to clean … Continue reading Get Motivated: Using Lists to Create a Balanced Daily Schedule
Every year my good friend David has a party on the Winter Solstice. Friends gather at his place, sit around a bunch of lit candles, eat and drink delicious things, and take turns sharing about their year. Some of us opt not to share, and participate just by bearing witness to the others, which is … Continue reading Sharing is optional; reflection is mandatory.
Self-work is a process. It does not produce results overnight (or, much to the chagrin of our insurance companies, after eight prescribed therapy sessions). It is not achieved by rote behavioral changes (though these are Useful survival techniques) or by shaming ourselves into being different. It works gradually, through regular self-reflection and checking in … Continue reading Little Thought of the Day: Slow and gentle change is the reward of self-work.