Rethinking Shame As A Motivator For Change.

When individuals begin to see me for therapy, it is very often because they have gotten fed up with some part of themselves that they feel needs changing, fixing, or altogether eradicating. They’ll introduce this part of themselves to me as their “stupid anxiety” or “annoying depression” or “ridiculous obsession with eating,” etcetera. They judge … Continue reading Rethinking Shame As A Motivator For Change.

Itch, Itch, Itch

The thought that life could be better is woven indelibly into our hearts and our brains. – Paul Simon My blood is alive with many voices telling me that I am made of longing. – Rainer Maria Rilke Last night my husband and I went out for Indian food at our local favorite place. I … Continue reading Itch, Itch, Itch

Examining the stories we tell about ourselves: Why creating our own narrative is so important.

In our adults years, we often believe we have a clear (somewhat clear?) understanding of who we are. This understanding is informed by the stories that have been told to us, about us, by other people throughout our lives: our parents, teachers, friends, extended family, coaches, etc. We play specific roles in the various systems … Continue reading Examining the stories we tell about ourselves: Why creating our own narrative is so important.