Three Reasons We Shame One Another, And Why We Should Stop.

In the therapy world, our ears become attuned to our own distinct language, one that we sometimes forget is our own. We throw around terminology like “transgenerational trauma” and “stress mechanisms” and forget that the rest of the world doesn’t routinely speak that way. We insulate ourselves with these terms, and tend to understand one … Continue reading Three Reasons We Shame One Another, And Why We Should Stop.

How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.

One of my friends tells her story of growing up with a mother with “issues” rather matter-of-factly, but the details are pretty grim to listen to. “She would stop talking to me for no reason, for days at a time, and put a gift on my bed when she decided she was done being mad … Continue reading How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.

On Changing, Adapting, and Nurturing Healthy Relationships.

For whatever reason, psychotherapists are assumed to be masters at navigating relationships. I completely understand this assumption, since we talk about relational health and vulnerability and honesty all day, but I’ve frankly never seen it play out in real life. Our relationships are as challenging and nuanced and messy and human as everyone else’s – … Continue reading On Changing, Adapting, and Nurturing Healthy Relationships.