Connection is essential, and difficult to come by.

  There is a unique grief to the end of my thirties. In many ways, this decade has been liberating and exciting. Like many people of my generation, I’ve finally hit a stride in my career that includes feeling both competent and skilled and fairly compensated for my work. I live in a home with … Continue reading Connection is essential, and difficult to come by.

How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.

One of my friends tells her story of growing up with a mother with “issues” rather matter-of-factly, but the details are pretty grim to listen to. “She would stop talking to me for no reason, for days at a time, and put a gift on my bed when she decided she was done being mad … Continue reading How to Care for Yourself When Dealing with Difficult People.

The Scary & Beautiful Gift of Change

In a conversation on the phone today, my best friend said something brilliant and noteworthy. (He is given to doing this on a whim). He said, “A great many people have compromised their souls in the name of safety and security.” (Told you it was smart. And yes, he actually talks this way, which is … Continue reading The Scary & Beautiful Gift of Change

Tell Me Everything: A Case For Real Connection

  One of my best friends is having a hard time. I've been talking to him on the phone about this problem recently (a year ago I decided to bring phone calls back as my primary mode of communication - best decision ever), processing and laughing and complaining together. At the end of our last … Continue reading Tell Me Everything: A Case For Real Connection