There is a unique grief to the end of my thirties. In many ways, this decade has been liberating and exciting. Like many people of my generation, I’ve finally hit a stride in my career that includes feeling both competent and skilled and fairly compensated for my work. I live in a home with … Continue reading Connection is essential, and difficult to come by.
One of my best friends is having a hard time. I've been talking to him on the phone about this problem recently (a year ago I decided to bring phone calls back as my primary mode of communication - best decision ever), processing and laughing and complaining together. At the end of our last … Continue reading Tell Me Everything: A Case For Real Connection
Every year my good friend David has a party on the Winter Solstice. Friends gather at his place, sit around a bunch of lit candles, eat and drink delicious things, and take turns sharing about their year. Some of us opt not to share, and participate just by bearing witness to the others, which is … Continue reading Sharing is optional; reflection is mandatory.
I've never been a big fan of being told what to do or how to do it, and the holidays are no exception. There is a general societal expectation of holiday participation in a very specific way, and that seems to stand no matter how financially challenged or far away or introverted one might be. … Continue reading Not a fan of the holidays? Here’s four ways to make them your own.
While I've always maintained a strong interest in it, meditation has never really been my thing. Historically, it's usually gone one of two ways for me: I’d watch my thoughts (“like a waterfall,” as they say) zip and zap like lightning all over the map of my skull, disparate and brief and electric, and gone … Continue reading Do what you love: small acts of daily meditation.