Parents frequently ask me for support in figuring out how best to set rules and expectations for their teenagers. This can be tough to navigate, especially if the teenager pushes back (which they are wont to do) or the parents aren't sure how they "should" approach boundary setting (there are no "shoulds"; there is no … Continue reading If it Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It: 3 Tips for Setting Rules for Teenagers
Codependency refers to a relationship in which one party has excessive emotional or psychological reliance on the other. Cited often in terms of addiction (a codependent relationship between an addict and their enabling partner, parent, friend, etc.), codependency also pops up frequently in relationships in which someone is struggling with mental or physical illness. More broadly, … Continue reading Books to be better: Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.
Free-Photos/PixabayDo you have trouble holding your boundaries? Do you find it even more difficult after a conversation with your significant other, your mother, your best friend? You might be in a relationship with a boundary-pusher. Here are six types of common boundary-pushers I’ve identified in my years as a therapist (and as a human). It’s … Continue reading 6 Common Types of Boundary-Pushers: Do You Have One In Your Life?
Hello all! Just thinking this morning about the importance of giving yourself a break (ie, self-kindness) when things are messy or stressful or hard... I'm looking at my own to-do list this morning and there is very little fun or restoration and way too many big ticket Responsible items. On top of this, today … Continue reading Little thought of the day: Be the snail (give yourself a break).
Sometimes the best choice is not to go home for the holidays.