Trusting My Clients to Do The Hard Work
Ah, Autumn. It’s clearly the very best season – all crisp and cool and tweed-y. And come on, we all know that all of the best of food and fashion emerges in October. It’s also the season when, in the…
Ah, Autumn. It’s clearly the very best season – all crisp and cool and tweed-y. And come on, we all know that all of the best of food and fashion emerges in October. It’s also the season when, in the…
I turned forty this year. The number has a decidedly permissive flavor to it. I’ve never really been interested in doing things in a particularly conventional manner, but I’d be lying if I said that others’ opinions haven’t mattered a…
I was at lunch with a group of friends the other day when I announced that I’m over the whole notion of self-care. It is no longer interesting to me, and I think it’s a rather poor promoter of true…
The holidays are finally over, and I’m so relieved. New Year’s Day is consolation after the cacophany of noise that is the holiday season. This New Year’s morning is particularly still – there’s a considerable blanket of snow outside my…
Like many of my colleagues that feel deeply connected to the practice of psychotherapy, I believe that I was built for this kind of work. When in the therapy room, I feel capable, confident, and clear – this is what…
I recently received a text citing a friend doing something that was hard for him, and struggling with it. “It’s ok, though,” said the text, “he’s powering through it.” “Blech,” I thought to myself. Then I typed “Is that really…
There is a unique grief to the end of my thirties. In many ways, this decade has been liberating and exciting. Like many people of my generation, I’ve finally hit a stride in my career that includes feeling both…
I have a new favorite show. It’s called Modern Love, it’s on Amazon, and it’s based on the Modern Love column from the New York Times. It’s moving and it’s lovely. In one episode, Anne Hathaway plays a woman…
As clinicians, we are built from the ground up to disregard ourselves. This begins in our training process, when we are instructed on how to listen well to someone. It is made clear that we are ears, not mouths. We’re…
In a conversation on the phone today, my best friend said something brilliant and noteworthy. (He is given to doing this on a whim). He said, “A great many people have compromised their souls in the name of safety and…