When Help Is Harmful: Thoughts on “Snowplow” Parenting

The recent news about wealthy/celebrity parents paying to have their children accepted into colleges via fraudulent methods has gotten me thinking. My first thought is, "Wait, isn't this old news? I thought we all knew this was going on." My secondthought is the stuff of this post: a thread around the larger concept of parents' … Continue reading When Help Is Harmful: Thoughts on “Snowplow” Parenting

If it Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It: 3 Tips for Setting Rules for Teenagers

Parents frequently ask me for support in figuring out how best to set rules and expectations for their teenagers. This can be tough to navigate, especially if the teenager pushes back (which they are wont to do) or the parents aren't sure how they "should" approach boundary setting (there are no "shoulds"; there is no … Continue reading If it Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It: 3 Tips for Setting Rules for Teenagers

To the Parents of Kids that Don’t Fit In: Your Kids are All Right.

In my fifteen years as a clinician, I’ve worked predominantly with adolescents and young adults. I’ve always appreciated teenagers - there is such magic in that developmental period of trying on many different hats and identity exploration. On countless occasions, I’ve had teenagers brought to my office by their parents, seeking support because their child … Continue reading To the Parents of Kids that Don’t Fit In: Your Kids are All Right.