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Musings on mental health from our therapists.
Times are weird.
I feel that if this virus outbreak has anything meaningful to point out to us, it’s the unquestionable truth that we belong to one another. As part of this Human team, we are only as strong as our weakest player. We can pretend that we are separate and individual, but…
Thoughts on Flow
“It is when we act freely, for the sake of the action itself rather than for ulterior motives, that we learn to become more than what we were.” -Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi It’s been awhile since I’ve posted, since I’m in the process of making lots of new things. Moving through ideas…
Self-Care versus Life-Care (or, how to talk about caring for the self in a way that’s actually meaningful)
I was at lunch with a group of friends the other day when I announced that I’m over the whole notion of self-care. It is no longer interesting to me, and I think it’s a rather poor promoter of true health and wellness. Stay with me, here. Self-care has been…
Trying to do my part
It’s raining this morning. There is no need for rain here in Keene, New Hampshire. There is snow here, and there is ice; there is wet stuff on everything. I’m thinking about Australia, and the uncontainable blazes, and the animals, and the people, and I’m so, so sad that I…
Considering Intention on a Quiet Winter Morning
The holidays are finally over, and I’m so relieved. New Year’s Day is consolation after the cacophany of noise that is the holiday season. This New Year’s morning is particularly still – there’s a considerable blanket of snow outside my New Hampshire living room window, there’s some (blessed) sun coming…
Three Reasons We Shame One Another, And Why We Should Stop.
In the therapy world, our ears become attuned to our own distinct language, one that we sometimes forget is our own. We throw around terminology like “transgenerational trauma” and “stress mechanisms” and forget that the rest of the world doesn’t routinely speak that way. We insulate ourselves with these terms,…
The Whole Thing Counts (Thoughts on Loss)
In the therapy room recently, a client shared her experience of the loss of a close family member. She reported that her grief, raw and tender, felt especially intense because the relationship had not been optimum when the person had passed. Because of this, she also carries guilt, remorse, and…
Your Very Own Monster-In-A-Box
Therapists come up with all sorts of terminology to name this and that – we work with the same problems and ideas repeatedly, and need images and language to describe human experience. Sometimes we come up with our own labels and concepts. The Monster-in-a- box is one of mine. The…