In our adults years, we often believe we have a clear (somewhat clear?) understanding of who we are. This understanding is informed by the stories that have been told to us, about us, by other people throughout our lives: our parents, teachers, friends, extended family, coaches, etc. We play specific roles in the various systems … Continue reading Examining the stories we tell about ourselves: Why creating our own narrative is so important.
Codependency refers to a relationship in which one party has excessive emotional or psychological reliance on the other. Cited often in terms of addiction (a codependent relationship between an addict and their enabling partner, parent, friend, etc.), codependency also pops up frequently in relationships in which someone is struggling with mental or physical illness. More broadly, … Continue reading Books to be better: Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More.
Trigger warning: this blog post describes disordered eating patterns and behaviors. Last week, I wrote about how control isn't always the bad guy, and how sometimes allowing for a little control here or there can help us in our self-work towards larger goals. This week, we're looking at signs that our internal "controller" has taken … Continue reading 3 Signs that we may need support to work with issues with control.
"Why? Why do I care? Why do I need to make my bed upon rising? More importantly, how can I just roll with it?" I was texting with my friend on the subject of control. Like most regular adult humans, she's had a lifelong love/hate affair with control - wanting more of it in … Continue reading Is the need for control always a bad thing? (Hint: no. It’s not.)
This year, I've decided to add an occasional "Books to be better people" segment to my blog. As in, books that have made me better, that you should also read because there's a good chance they might make you better, too. I am always reading something therapy or self-improvement related, and if and when I … Continue reading Books to be better people: Lindy West’s “Shrill”