Lately, my best friend is reminding me to hold boundaries, to protect myself, and not to play therapist to people in my personal life. This is sound and sage (and timely) advice, and I welcome it. It’s an important reminder for individuals like me - a therapist not only by trade but down to my … Continue reading Finding Your Self: The Challenge for Helpers, Healers, & Caretakers
One of the most interesting parts of being a therapist that specializes in disordered eating is becoming intimately familiar with the "shoulds." Disordered eating patterns appeal to those of us that feel safe in the regimen of rules, and quell our near-constant anxiety with the promise that, as long as we keep doing things in … Continue reading Stop “Shoulding” All Over Yourself: A Few Thoughts on the Moralizing of Food & Eating.
The challenge of direct and healthy communication is a regular topic that comes up in therapy sessions (and in daily life, for all of us). Sometimes, we find ourselves mired accidentally in reality tv-worthy dramas. Unnecessary disputes result from assumptions made but never expressed. Differing opinions aren’t fully unpacked and people assume the worst of … Continue reading Confrontation: On (not) Saying What We Need, Out Loud (under our breath, to ourselves).
One of the more pervasive (and exasperating) ideas I hear in therapy sessions is the notion of pursuing weight loss and dieting in the name of “health.” I am speaking specifically about the vast sea of us that are otherwise perfectly medically healthy, but, for one reason or another (ahem, cultural pressures and social media, … Continue reading In pursuit of health – why dieting isn’t “healthy”.
I am solidly pro-quitting. Simply put, as a therapist, I have seen too many individuals wasting too much time on things that they feel they “should” be doing. Jobs, hobbies, friendships. Exercise regimens. Diets. High school students sleeping five hours or less to engage in “extra-curriculars” that they no longer love, or even enjoy, to … Continue reading Should I Throw in the Towel? 3 Signs That It’s Time To Quit.