Not very many years ago at all, I found myself at a crossroads. I was working at a job that was highly fulfilling and meaningful, but also grueling, exhausting, and crisis-oriented. I wanted badly to continue doing important work, but found my own health and self-care failing as I tried to keep up. If I … Continue reading Pick Yourself! On Attending To Your Own Self-Care First .
Communication in relationships can become strained in the face of arguments and disagreements. Because all healthy relationships contain conflict, it’s important to be aware of the signs that communication patterns have become unhealthy. Here’s four red flags to be on the lookout for to be sure that your communication patterns remain useful, respectful, and positive: … Continue reading When communication is unhealthy: Four red flag behaviors.
Hello all! I'm so excited that one of my favorite books (that I recommend to ALL of my clients), Shrill, has been made into a TV series on Hulu. And not just a TV series - a funny, well-casted, very smart, rather groundbreaking series. I've written about Shrill before. I love the book because I think … Continue reading Shrill is a TV show! Why everybody should watch it.
I find it helpful in moments of feeling my small-ness to touch back on the foundations of the healing arts - the basics. I remember that the true power of therapeutic work comes in the small elements of joining another person in their emotional space. At the core of our practice, we bear witness to the … Continue reading The Incredible Power of Listening
The recent news about wealthy/celebrity parents paying to have their children accepted into colleges via fraudulent methods has gotten me thinking. My first thought is, "Wait, isn't this old news? I thought we all knew this was going on." My secondthought is the stuff of this post: a thread around the larger concept of parents' … Continue reading When Help Is Harmful: Thoughts on “Snowplow” Parenting